In college, it took me 30 minutes to get ready, which included washing my hair, drying it, and putting on makeup. I wanted to look cute, but I never wasted any time. I was also under 100 pounds then so there wasn't much body to wash. Haha!
讀大學的時候，要出門前我通常花30分鐘作準備。這30分鐘裡還包括洗頭，吹乾和化妝。雖然我希望自己能看起來可可愛愛的，但是我從來不浪費時間。也許是因為那時我連45公斤都不到，沒有那麼多東西可以洗吧! (哈哈。)
After I met my husband, the time cut down to 20 minutes. I still wanted to look cute for him, but I was always so anxious to see him. I didn't have the patience to blow-dry my hair completely before I wanted to run out the door to spend time with him.
遇見我先生後，雖然我還是希望自己能為他打扮的可可愛愛的，但是因為太想早點見面，我把我那準備出門用的30分鐘減成了20分鐘…在跑出去見他之前，不再有耐心去完全吹乾頭髮….
Right after we got married, it took me about 15 minutes to get ready. We were so excited about being a newlywed couple, and he always told me"you look pretty" even if I was wearing sweatpants. So, sweatpants and no make-up was fine with me! I was also 21 years old, so my face didn't need makeup then. Wish I could say the same now...:)
新婚的時候，我那為出門做準備的時間再減少，只有15分鐘。因為第一，我們為我們的新生活感到太興奮，第二，我的先生，就算是我穿著一條運動褲，他動不動還是會告訴我”妳好漂亮”。於是我開始滿足於穿運動褲配上一個不化妝的素顏。也許因為那時我才21歲，我的臉不需要太多的修飾吧! (多希望現在還能如此….)
After Malakai was born, I spent about 10 minutes in the bathroom to get ready. I always felt I needed to hurry because my newborn wasn't in my line of vision, and I thought something would happen if I wasn't right next to him all the time. I also cut my hair short so it would dry without any effort.
凱凱出生後，我花在洗手間的時間變成了10分鐘。我總是盡快的在趕，因為擔心我那剛出生的孩子不在我的視線範圍內會出事。
同時，我剪短了頭髮，可以不必多花時間去處理。
Now I have two young kids and I'm pregnant with #3. I spend about 60 minutes in the bathroom these days. Not only is it time for me to be alone and to be actually able to hear my own thoughts, I have come to realize that the more people I have to take care of, the more I need to take care of myself first. I need to have hobbies, I need to spend time out alone with my friends, I need to keep learning and filling my life with interesting information, I need to go on date nights with my husband so we can make sure our marriage is strong, and I need to take care of my appearance and feel good about myself on the inside and on the outside. I need to find my own interests and passion, and even indulge in my favorite foods or go shopping sometimes.
Being a good mother doesn't mean you sacrifice who you are to take care of your beautiful babies. Loving yourself and improving yourself makes you a better mother. It has taken me almost three children to learn that lesson, but I have finally learned it!
現在，我有兩個年幼的孩子，肚子裡懷著老三。
這些日子以來，我花在洗手間的時間大約是60分鐘。
這段洗澡的時間不僅是我獨處的時間，更是我可以聽自己聲音的時間。
我發現在我需要花更多時間來照顧更多人的同時，我需要把自己照顧好。
我需要有自己的嗜好，我需要有時間跟我的朋友相處，我需要繼續學習有趣的事物，持續餵養我的生命。我需要跟我先生單獨約會，以經營我們的婚姻關係，讓它確保強壯。我需要照顧我自己的需要，不管是內在或外在。我需要尋找自己有興趣和有熱情的事物，甚至包括吃我最愛的食物和出門逛街。
做一個好媽媽並不代表要完全犧牲自己去照顧可愛的孩子。
愛自己，讓自己不斷進步能讓我們成為更好的媽媽。
這個功課，在我經歷將近三個孩子的過程中學習…
好不容易，學到了。
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